If you’re looking for ideas to connect with your child in a meaningful way, then look no further than these positive affirmations for kids.
Do affirmations even work?
A lot of the scientific psychological literature points to affirmations on their own not being effective for people who already suffer from low-self esteem, negative thought-patterns or painful emotions (see this study: Positive Self-Statements – Power for Some, Peril for Others).
However, I view affirmations as simply one tool in the emotional-healing first-aid-kit.
It’s also been my experience in the past, that using affirmations in an attempt to “make myself feel better” has often made me feel worse because my conscious brain rejected the positive things I was telling myself.
So why bother with affirmations then?
Once you start a deliberate and conscious attempt to heal emotional trauma and pain, there is a series of steps that you’ll go through in order to get to the bottom of your issues.
The first four steps include:
- understanding & forgiveness
I talk more about the healing journey in this article -> How to Start Healing from Emotional Trauma: The Pyramid of Healing.
True healing and transformation can’t take place without these first four steps being covered and they involve a lot of hard, and sometimes painful, work.
The next step in the healing process is self-love and support, and once you’ve done the prior work, this step doesn’t need to be forced with the use of affirmations.
So you see, using affirmations on their own, without doing any other work, is like trying to by-pass the first four crucial steps in the healing process. It’s a form of ‘toxic positivity’.
It’s like trying to place a sticking plaster over a festering wound that needs proper attention.
You’re trying to convince your traumatized brain to instantly believe something that it hasn’t been programmed to. It’s taken years to program your brain to believe you’re not worthy, lovable or good enough and it takes time and dedication to undo that programming.
Positive affirmations are still a great tool
When we’re talking about kids however, hopefully we’re at a stage where they are still under-going their programming.
This is where affirmations can be useful tool in our emotional support tool-kit and as I mentioned in the intro, a great way to develop a meaningful connection with our kids.
How to use positive affirmations with kids
Printing out affirmation cards and using them along with your child is great for all types of learners.
You can allow your child to pick a card daily as a general affirmation or use them together as story, journal or discussion prompts.
Say for example, your child picked the affirmation: ‘I am a great friend’, you can discuss with them what makes a good friend in general, times when you yourself felt you were a good friend, and encourage them to share why they are a good friend to others.
This type of exercise encourages you both to safely share thoughts, feelings and emotions, and promotes good communication.
You can also then create art, stories or games centered around the day’s affirmation to help promote your child’s imagination, reinforce the positive affirmation and make it part of your child’s experience.
If you print off a set of affirmations, laminate them and place them on a box or flip-ring, kids that can read, will also like to look through them by themselves.
A free printable for you: Positive Affirmations for kids
I created a set of 48 positive affirmation cards to use with my daughter and I thought they were so gorgeous, that I wanted to share them with you.
I’ve intentionally created this card set to inspire confidence, creativity, self-esteem and a positive mindset, and I intend to use it exactly as I described above.
Children especially have a special affinity with our friends in the animal kingdom, who can inspire so much healing with their unconditional love and acceptance.
That’s why each card in this deck has been lovingly created to share an empowering affirmation alongside gorgeous photography of weird and wonderful animals.
You can download 10 of these affirmation cards for free. You can then print them out, laminate them or stick them to thick card and use them with your child/children as you wish.
The affirmations included in the free set are:
- I will always try my best
- If I can dream it, I can do it
- I am proud of myself
- I can be brave
- My mistakes help me learn
- I am a good friend
- I care about others
- I am loved
- My family loves me
- I am kind
You’ll also be able to download a ‘backside’ card if you’d like the cards to be double-sided.
If you love these affirmation cards as much as I do, you can purchase the full set of ‘I AM LOVED’ positive affirmation cards for kids as a printable download for US$14.99. Click here for more information.
AND COMING SOON! The ‘I AM LOVED’ positive affirmation cards will be available as a printed deck and enclosed in a card box.
If you do use my positive affirmations for kids, I’d love to hear how they work out for you.
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